Counselling and Creativity : An Approach to Individuation: Aggressive Phantasies

Thursday, September 30, 2010

Aggressive Phantasies

One researcher Dr Penny Spikins helps to enlighten us on her research on caveman society, noting how "they had 'a deep seated sense of compassion' for sick and weak members of their society. ...". Her article on 'The Prehistory of Compassion' also states, "Managing our complex sense of compassion for others is far from straightforward. Caring for the objects, animals or people to whom we have made a commitment can generate conflicts... Research has shown that some of us (up to 30% in modern western society) are predominantly self-focused in our motivations in close personal relationships even though the majority of us are predominantly other focused...".

Courtesy Dr Penny Spikins, Holly Rutherford and Andy Needham

AGGRESSOR 101 MATRIX

So, you are the Master of all knowledge, are you?

“Yes, kill or be killed, annihilate the enemy, always

Make instant gratification a priority in the present and

Care for no one; that includes family and friends”.

And, if you don’t mind me asking, what does a person

Get from a regressive attitude? “Peace and calm in the heart”.

Peace and calm in the heart? So by doing excessive

‘Aggression’, do you mean you get peace and calm?

I can appreciate, that might be your highest

Intention, however, I just wondered, have you

Ever thought about doing ‘love’ and caring about your family

And friends, to actually get peace and calm in your heart?

Beyond survival and a sense of guilt, it's much better to

Be motivated towards win-win isn't it.

(c) Jennifer Hooper 2010

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Dear Readers,

You may be wondering when am I going to finish editing my book, I have been talking about. The thing is, it’s such a precious autobiography account of a story I want to share as interesting, educational and practical for lovers of poetry and psychology, it's been quite a special project of creating a kind of a fusion of the two disciplines in a creative way. I had parked the project temporarily to finish my Continuing Professional Development for 2010 and having achieved this, I will now resume my passion for writing. I hope now to be placing the manuscript safetly in the hands of someone who can tell me not just "it's a facinating read..." but will also direct me to a publisher, even though I have not ruled out self-publishing! I guess this takes us onto how my reading went on Freud’s Three Essays on the Theory of Sexuality 1905? Fascinating to say the least and I dare say, postulations probably amounting to the impossible to those in the 18th Century who thought it preposterous that a child could ever have a sex life. It seems though,this was the very investigation that Freud started to uncover from both the light and dark side, which may have later influenced him to change some of his theories, maybe to avoid fierce debate and/or being unpopular, who really knows (Freud 1905). Nevertheless, his neurological and later psychotherapy approaches to discovery does seem to lend itself to a linear explanation to how innocent and precious child development is and how much it needs to be preserved for normal and social development. I guess when he talks of “repression”, that is, burying unwanted thoughts or feelings, he does have a point about humans doing this as a coping mechanism when confronted with unpleasant earlier memories.

Moving on to the next point, now will I get to read his full psychological works in 2011! That’s the challenge. However, I have set myself and even more challenging goal for 2011, that of reviewing at a more researched level, Carl G. Jung, probably Freud's earliest contemporary. I am excited already knowing that Carl saw the unconscious as a repository of unpleasantness too and also one for “positivity”. Maybe that’s how we know that all learnings are unconscious. Thank goodness we have the power to change or dispose of unpleasantness by responding differently to problems. A modern practical application, in this recession I would say, is it’s time to be resilient about our pasts and maintain this consistency for our futures, by empowering ourselves now to deal artfully with problems, because we know there will always be a new one, don’t we.

Ladies and gentlemen,

As you think about going into the New Year, you can let go of all the unpleasantness that you may be holding on to, because it’s not worth the energy is it. Yes, time is precious and so are you and you are so much more precious than problems aren’t you. So as you focus here on yourself and what you want to achieve in 2011, it feels good doesn’t it to know that you can fill your unconscious with “positivity”, good learnings, thoughts and feelings to take you through probably another tough year. And you will get through it won’t you, and you will remember that there will always be another problem that you can blow away. So now you will concentrate on becoming skillful, confident and ready to take the challenge to remain mentally strong for yourself and your loved ones for the next 365 days and beyond. Good. Now that you are ready, take a deep breath in and then out and and as you blow out, blow all those old problems out into the universe and enjoy your life. 123,WIDE AWAKE, WIDE AWAKE ... I do have a pet bird I need to chat to now, whilst all the fireworks are going off... (c) Jennifer Hooper 2010. 31.12.10 at midnight.

Counselling and Creativity : An Approach to Individuation

Thursday, September 30, 2010

Aggressive Phantasies

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