Modern Day Narcissism

Now why do I seem to return to the topic of narcissism lately? Apart from it being a major topic I am writing about, I do experience and observe it being a major player at different levels in all of us. Some of us find it hard talking about the subject let alone believing that narcissism may form any part of our complex personalities. Here I am though and I put my hands up, I am not perfect and will probably be examining my levels of narcissism from time to time. You have probably guessed, I do find it a fascinating subject, particularly how it starts to evolve normally in infancy and then the way it can be acted out in adults, especially in extreme or exaggerated forms. Someone once told me that 'it’s not good to keep examining yourself every day', maybe not, but how do you evaluate your affect on others, if part of your daily routine is to cause yourself certain types of anxieties when the psychological emergence of an other person starts to break through, that is, their separateness and personality proves that they don’t think or behave exactly like you?

Well, there is plenty of room for debate here and reasons for unconscious motives for what could start off the process of hatred towards an other  just for being different! Consequently, and consciously, some might say or describe the other in some way as inferior: as a dim wit, unfeeling or unintelligent, or is the reality of "otherness" simply a matter of rejection of creative 'difference'? I wonder whether any of these perceptions have anything to do with envy, jealousy and prejudices, or a matter of admiration being diverted even for a moment to an other person being some kind of regression to infancy. Well, whatever form it takes, I wonder how easy it would be to show others love and appreciation for similar likeness, rather than rejection of the notion of sameness, as a delusion of an attack on the sense of being a unique ‘me’, by the behaviour of blocking room for sense of otherness?

One suggestion I had in mind was to work through any kind of aspect of hatred or hatred to the excess, initiated by narcissism or narcissistic traits, this could include perception of colour, race, culture, prejudices and racism. After all, at the base level, we all started with the same biological form and instincts didn’t we.